How many times have you wondered what a guy is thinking when it comes to dating or being in a relationship? The only way to know is ask—so we did. Mochi approached six young men about what they think girls should know about making relationships work.
Know when you’re special.
“I once invited a girl to hang out at a family barbeque during a holiday weekend. She asked me if her friend could come, but it was a little weird. If I invite a girl to hang out, it doesn’t have to be a date, but depending on the activity, she should know if she’s the plus-one. She shouldn’t invite her own plus-one.” —Johnny, 22
Be a perfect partner in crime.
“The way to a guy’s heart is pretty simple—it’s about having similar interests and being open-minded to trying new things. I had a date with my current girlfriend where we went ziplining. She had never done it before, so that was fun.” —Thomas, 22
When it comes to gifts, just ask.
“Men are very straightforward. When buying gifts for another girl, girls go get something they imagine the recipient would want. For guys, sometimes girls envision what they themselves want a guy to have. Personally, I’d rather there be no surprises. Just ask me what I want.” —Josh, 23
Guys have feelings too.
“Girls tend to think guys aren’t that sensitive, but some are. When I meet a girl I really like, I crush hard—though I have to balance that with my career too, so it’s hard. Be empathetic!” —Ross, 25
Tell it like it is.
“Definitely communicate. If something bothers you, bring it up, or else it’ll be a bigger issue later on. For example, if there are dirty dishes, just ask if your guy if he can do them. Being direct and kind is the best approach, rather than being passive aggressive or waiting for them to read your mind.” —Albert, 25
Give each other space when needed.
“Sometimes, it’s nice to just hang out with friends you haven’t seen in a while [without your girlfriend]. It’s not a personal thing. Sometimes your friends prefer to just see you and catch up, especially when they’re not super close with your girlfriend.” —Mark, 26
Quotes have been edited for clarity and length.
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I need advice on making friends with women. I’ve always gotten along with women better than men. I grew up with mostly women and feel more comfortable with them than men. I recently moved and would like to make male and female, or nonbinary friends.
So there is a young woman at work that I enjoy talking to. She isn’t married. It can be problematic when there’s a husband because, understandably, they don’t appreciate their wife going out with what appears to be a date. She’s quite a bit younger than me I think. Would it be inappropriate if I asked her to coffee some time? Would it be weird and awkward because we work together? How do I go about asking?
So this guy ive known since may of 2024, we haven’t spoken yet but im planning to later today or Saturday, we make continuous eye contact, he holds the eye contact but I dont. I’m not social. And he for some reason can immediately spot me no matter how far away I am from him. Is he intrested or am I overthinking?