Everything you ever wanted to know about romance, dealing with parents (and being a parent!), and friendship.
At 15, Merissa* met the boy who would eventually become her husband. They lasted through a long-distance relationship and then marriage, but that all ended when Merissa was 36. Their divorce took six years to finalize, prolonging the closure that Merissa desperately...
You’re sitting in a cute bar with a cute Parisian you met on Tinder. He asks if you’re Japanese. You’ve only heard this question a bajillion times, so you simply say no, you’re Korean American. An hour later, he begins whispering sweetly to you… in Japanese. Maybe he...
If you think that racist comments disappear once a person achieves a certain level of fame, think again. Many AAPI celebrities find that they are still confronted with harsh racist remarks, especially when it comes to physical appearance and attractiveness. Asian...
Excuse me while I show my age, but whenever I think of friendship, I cannot help but think of Zack Attack from the show “Saved by the Bell” and their song “Friends Forever.” How could I not with iconic lines like, “Through it all, hangin’ tough, we’ll stay side by...
Dear Mochi, I’m writing from Texas, hoping you can help with a little family issue (or maybe it’s a big family issue, since everything’s bigger in Texas!). My father-in-law was born in China, moved to the States in his late teens, and married a Caucasian woman. He...
This month we are featuring coming-out stories from the LGBTQIAA+ AAPI community. We chose a variety of stories because “coming out” can mean a lot of things, and each story is unique and valuable. We also acknowledge that for many AAPIs, “coming out” publicly is...
Dear Mochi: “Knowing Father’s Day might be emotional for her, I’m trying to figure out the best approach.” You won’t be hurting her by bringing it up, you’ll be supporting her. Have a situation you want Mochi’s take on? Write to us at advice@mochimag.com. We can’t...
Dear Mochi: “I want to do well in my first year as a daughter-in-law.” The burden of pleasing your husband’s mother should not fall on your shoulders alone.We’re bringing back our advice column in time to answer some tricky questions ahead of Mother’s Day. Have a...
My work involves organizing dinners among strangers with different political perspectives in an effort to build understanding. Over a hot lasagna and homemade biscuits, people start to let down their guards. At one such dinner, the issue of white privilege...