Mochi Magazine Staff on Why It’s Important to Be Selfish
In the hectic world we live in—rushing to meetings, trying to complete projects, and staying in touch with family and friends—it can be difficult to take time for ourselves or even recognize that taking care of yourself, appropriately now called “self-care,” is important.
In honor of our Selfish issue, Mochi staffers discuss why it is important to be selfish sometimes, and the ways they incorporate self-care into their everyday lives.
Kathy Pham, Web Designer
Why is it important to be selfish?: I think being selfish isn’t necessarily a bad quality, if it’s in small doses. No matter how caring you are, each person has his or her limit of how much they can do for others.
What do you do for self-care?: Even though I sometimes feel guilty, I avoid committing to more responsibilities, so I can get more “me” time. When I am tired, I take a break to treat myself to a nice meal and catch up on sleep. On the other hand, my friends work out, so I should probably follow their lead on this!
Kelly Fong, Copy Chief
Why is it important to be selfish?: While I like to live my life selflessly and cater to the wants and needs of those I love, sometimes I forget to take care of myself and start to withdraw. It’s important to have some “me” time, away from the noise of daily life, to enjoy my own company, and stay in tune with my own feelings and needs. There’s a quote I saw recently that rings so true: “You can’t pour from an empty glass.”
What do you do for self-care?: I like to stay comfortable in my own company. Sometimes this involves taking a long walk, baking, writing, reading, recording music, or binge watching a mindless TV show on Netflix.
Catherine Zaw, Staff Writer
Why is it important to be selfish?: Being selfish by taking time for yourself to reflect allows you to understand yourself better and, ultimately, to apply those lessons to your future interactions with others. Ironically, this sometimes leads to you becoming a less selfish person—by reflecting about yourself, you can better see your own shortcomings!
What do you do for self-care?: I like to write a lot, because to me, words on a page are more objective than the thoughts in my head. I also love to close my eyes and just immerse myself in the music from my headphones.
Sarah Spitz, Alumni
Why is it important to be selfish?: I think it is important to do self-care every day, even if it is only for a couple of minutes! If you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t be able to care for others.
What do you do for self-care?: Yoga! Whether I take a class or do it by myself at home, getting on my mat every day is really important for my self-care because it gives me a chance to clear my mind and reset.
Stephanie Lee, Assistant Managing Editor
Why is it important to be selfish?: No one knows you better than yourself!
What do you do for self-care?: I try to end every day happy or satisfied with myself. This takes many forms, including thinking about something good I did at work, eating healthy, or attempting some form of exercise—those things make me feel good about myself, both mentally and physically.
Esther Suh, Staff Writer
Why is it important to be selfish?: It’s important to be selfish in every aspect of your life, but especially important in your relationships and career. Relationship and career navigation are both extremely personal decisions—while we may be surrounded by friends and family who are well-meaning, only we can know what is right for us at our current time in life.
What do you do for self-care?: I like to light a candle and stay in with a new e-book or listen to “The Gilmore Guys” podcast.
Jenny Yu, Art Director
Why is it important to be selfish?: It’s important to be selfish when you feel exhausted, overstressed, or overwhelmed. When you truly take care of yourself, it gives you time to repair and build self-awareness, so you can function at 100 percent for subsequent days, rather than trying to operate on already low energy levels.
What do you do for self-care?: I like to have a picnic at the park, take a bath, drink tea, draw whatever I want, listen to music, or read.
Tiffany Yu, Advisory Board
Why is it important to be selfish?: It is so important for us to take care of ourselves all the time! We are only able to take care of others if we have taken proper care of ourselves.
What do you do for self-care?: I enjoy energizing conversations, reading, and—my guilty pleasure—watching Netflix.
Stephanie Wu, Editor-in-Chief
Why is it important to be selfish?: Being selfish puts my head in a better space, and helps me feel less scattered at the end of the day.
What do you do for self-care?: I like to curl up in bed and spend an hour or so (or sometimes a few hours) binge-watching TV at night right before I go to sleep. Since I watch a ton of television, this has the added benefit of helping me not fall behind on my shows!