In 2006, the American Psychological Association released a report that although Asian Americans have lower rates of mental illness than Caucasians, they are also less likely to seek treatment. In the second semester of my freshman year of college, I was one of those Asian Americans who didn’t seek help.

Google “Facebook relationships” and you’ll find results like “13 ways Facebook Ruins Your Relationship” or “Facebook Puts Relationships on a Collision Course.” While these claims may have no scientific basis, they do demonstrate how sites like Facebook have completely changed how we interact with each other.

I am hapa. With an Asian American father and a Caucasian mother, I am evenly split between two worlds. Rather than a fixed 50/50 percentage, I feel like I’m on a spectrum, constantly shifting back and forth between cultural extremes. The shift isn’t always smooth, either—sometimes my two halves go hand in hand, but just as often, they conflict.