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The Shy Girl’s Guide to Finding Romance Abroad

Nineteen-year-old Maurice Velazco was studying in Europe when he spotted a handsome guy at a soccer game in Wales. Despite not having any intentions to date while abroad, he put his worries of rejection and incompatibility aside and struck up a conversation with the gorgeous stranger, later known as Andrew. The two hit it off immediately, and for the remainder of Maurice’s stay, they were inseparable.

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Whether you’re looking for a real relationship or simply a fun flirt, studying abroad is perhaps the best time to experiment with romance. Being in a different country gives us an excuse to meet new people. Are you one to complain that there are absolutely no dateable guys at your school? Well, when you’re out and about, there are no excuses.

We are often worried about what to do in the awkward situation of running into an old flame and forget to have fun in present moment. It’s safe to say that when you’re roaming the romantic sidewalks of some European country, there’s a very small chance that you’ll ever see the people you come across again. So why not be a little more daring for once, bat your eyes at the waiter and hint that you’d like to hang out after he gets off work? Have fun and see which flirting techniques work for you and which don’t.

The great thing about being abroad is that you can explore your options when it comes to romance. You’ll be able to discover what kind of personalities you like and practice interacting with those you become interested in. If you challenge yourself to talk to a new person every day (they don’t necessarily have to be a love interest), then you are already expanding your people skills.

One of the most important things to remember is that confidence is attractive. If you’re bold enough to start a conversation and you casually drop in that you’re from a different country (a perfect icebreaker), you’re halfway to starting a new friendship. You don’t have to get a boyfriend out of this experience—just some practice. Get to know a different side of yourself when you’re not around your usual peers. It’s exhilarating to discover the fierceness inside of you.

While Maurice and Andrew had to end things when Maurice returned home, the two maintain a light-hearted friendship. They might not have been soulmates, but a great friend and lasting memories are what count. To this day, Maurice does not regret approaching Andrew—in fact, it is one of the highlights of his study abroad experience.

Perhaps approaching someone isn’t always as easy as it was in Maurice’s case. The point is: what could be the harm of simply saying “hello” to someone you find yourself attracted to? You could never talk to them again, or you could make a lifelong friend—you never know.

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  • Mara said:

    Thanks for the blog! If you want to study and practice languages online or on your iPhone a good service is Babbel.com (http://www.babbel.com). Bon Voyage!

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  • Rachel said:

    It’s definitely great to try new things when you’re abroad, but if you’re pursuing someone from that country, it’s a good idea to learn something about that culture first. Some cultures have much different dating norms and it’s important to know what signals you’re giving, as well as different expectations and behaviors.

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  • study-abroad-asia said:

    I disagree with the idea of experimenting. With romance, if it happens, great! If not, that’s fine too. It’s more important for one to expand their horizon further by making more new friends, getting to know the local culture, history and language. When we study abroad, while primary objective is education, the secondary objective should be networking.

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  • leslie said:

    I think the author understands that, but she’s just being specific on the topic of romance. She’s not telling you to look for love the moment you land – she’s saying that if that is something you are interested in, then don’t be shy about it. Of course education is the main reason you study abroad. But think about it – what will you remember more? The time you stayed up late to meet up with a local to learn about the culture, or the time you locked yourself in your room to study from textbooks? Just experiment. Whether it’s networking or love, she’s just saying that you need to lighten up and enjoy yourself.

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